Glad to see you back in the mix. I know how it is to get so busy with work that your personal life slides off to the side. Wait- that is partly how I ended up here!
That being said I think you win the award for the best PMA on this board. Don't lose focus of the end goal! My path with my H has been just a different than others, but it seems to be working. I took it to heart very early on that I was going to 'match' what my husband did as far as contact. Every once in a while I pushed the envelope. I guess in some cases this could be seen as persuing, but overall it seemed okay.
Do you mostly wait for H to contact you? Would you be comfortable reaching out to him on a more regular basis? Suggesting a lunch date just to get together and talk? If you have really reduced the negative interactions in your sitch, then I think getting together and acting as friends can be beneficial.
It took lots of these friendship get togethers with my H to make us both feel more comfortable moving forward. The holidays are a great excuse to get together.
I am in favor of doing nice things to show that you care- can you bake him some cookies? Make a big batch for a bunch of friends (afterall he is one as well!)
Hoping you move forward this holiday!
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
