Advice please...

[Ready2Change]

Asking how SHE is is OK. Asking how she feels about the status of the R is bad. It almost always leads in a negative direction.

Your actions will speak much loader than words. You do not want to smother her.

Please list all the 180's you have done so we can understand and support.

Here are some of mine:
1) Patience
2) Listening
3) Smiling no matter how SHE is behaving
4) New hair cut/shaving daily/cologne
5) New clothes
6) Completely involved with everything Kids are doing
7) Walking away if W attempts to argue
8) Voicing my opinion in a nonthreatening way
9) Defending my POV
10) Practicing DB with others (much easier than with angry spouse)