Jeff. It took me a while to get it too. In the FACE of this storm a good BOOK can go a long way. Read the caps and send a post to trapt for who to find.

By the way you are doing great. Just be careful, my W got rid of her OM(well I got rid of him and she doesn't know it). Then said she was working on us 100% then changed her mind 4 days later and has not tried to reconcile at all. I read alot about grieving the loss of the OM/OW and it will take her time to get over him. Just reality. Stay strong without the expectations and you will do just fine.

Married 10/12/2002
Me 35 Ring On
Her 29 Ring Off
D 4
S 2
Don't know if I am in love with you 10/7/08
Kinda Separated 10/7/08
EA/OM 6/6/08

my current thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1623276&page=1&fpart=4