I was unfaithful

[Sanderika]

Hello M....

In my case....

My H has definately down-graded.

My H's OW didn't meet him when he was young, broke and struggling to create a career. She met H when he was a wealthy successful businessman. SOOOOOO.....It is the concensus around here the OW is a gold-digger. She only knows the man he is now. She wants in on the wealth. H has the money now to wine and dine and that is all she knows and for what I can see she isn't letting go. She took 1 husband to the cleaners already, everyone says she will do it to H too. (If he is stupid enough to play along with her schemes til the end).

I was 15 when I met H...we married at 20 and were so poor. We lived in a camper for 1 year and a cellar for 12 years. I lived through all the bad and the good. Together we battled his cancer and many other challenges. Together WE built a successful business and achieved wealth. I love my H for who he genuinely is and am proud of our achievements.

In my sitch....40 months with OW, she has NEVER met our son. This alone should tell you the kind of b***h OW is. My H will not even suggest that happen. H knows the truth about her, IMO.
I truly believe that H is slowly waking to the facts. All in due time.....

These women know how to rope a man. They have been around the barn so many times. They are pros at getting what they want. It is our poor H's that are naive to the game they are playing. IMO they are out for one thing and one thing only and once they get their claws in they manipulate H's even more and it is H's that end up hurt, but out of their own choices. It is usually too late when they finally wake up.

I have a very wealthy FIL. My MIL died 4 years ago after they had been married 45 years. My FIL has since dated 3 women. Only one of them was financially independant enough to not want his money. The first GF was actually quoted saying: "I finally found myself a rich one now". This last one is very much the same way. We'll see how far this R goes they have only been dating about 3 months.

This is only my opinion. I tend to believe that 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc...Rs are not based on unconditional love. From what I have seen it is the money they fall in love with, and you can't base a real R only on money.

Sanderika