Yes, I've wondered about MLC. Would appreciate learning more from you about why you think that may be at play. And certainly a large measure of his attraction to this woman must be based on fantasy. They have spent very little time together and even less in a "real" way. Can a MLC really last that long (e.g., over 4 years?)
And I agree that I'm not ready for another relationship, nor do I want one.
I'm blessed with so many good friends. Unfortunately they do not share many of my activities which are fairly aggressive outdoor sports. I've joined some clubs to meet people to do these things with, but really I just want some activity partners. And I've made my postings on dating sites very clear on that point. If that issue comes up in any meetings, I will be very honest with any men I meet.
Thanks for your concern. I'm going to read your thread and it would be great if we could keep posting to each other.
