Well the in-laws showed up unannounced at 4:30 to look at our tree (what is up with looking at people's trees? my mom keeps saying she needs to come 'look at it' too).
I was pretty distant with them (duh I am pissed). MIL says, "I have missed you!" and hugs and kisses me...wtf
Then H came over after work. He called first from Omaha and I told him to just drive to Tom's and spend the night as it was a short drive and it was icy. Well he came anyway...kids and I were just sitting down to supper so I told him he could eat too (once he is there in front of the kids I feel I am kind of over a barrel so to speak).
Then the Grinch movie came on w/Jim Carrey and the kids and I were planning to watch it while we hoped for a snow day. H came on in and got on the couch and the kids both climbed up on him so they snuggled together for half the movie. Grrr!
After kids went to bed I gave Dan his copy of the parenting plan examples and told him we could talk about them Sunday. Then I told him I wasn't comfortable with him just coming over whenever, did he plan to have me doing the same at his house? He said he just wanted to see the kids as much as possible. I told him his decision to move out meant he wouldn't be seeing them as much (duh).
I asked a couple things about the house he is buying b/c it will be seen as marital debt by the divorce attorneys/judges and I don't like how he is being shady about it. He told me:
*Realtor doesn't know his mom and dad are giving him the money, he didn't tell her where he was getting it, he will have it before closing so it will look like his (ooooooookay?)
*He told the realtor he was looking at it for an investment property, to rent. I said, "For you to rent? But you are buying it?" H said, "No to rent to other people". So he even lied to his own real estate agent about why he wanted the house.
At that point even though I know it was not my problem, I told him I didn't understand why he was being so secretive about it. He said even his sisters didn't know he was buying a house, only his mom and dad knew. It 'wasn't their business'. I said, "Oh, ok, so when Nathan starts telling them about the new Star Wars bed he has at Dad's house, THAT is how they will find out?"
I said I felt he wasn't taking ownership of his decision. He said he was not happy with his decision, he was not proud of his decision, and he had gotten exactly 5 minutes of sleep the night before trying to figure out how to explain it to Nathan (S6). (Sooooo not feeling bad for him!) I told him it would be public knowledge as we would need to fill out new contact forms at the elementary school and the daycare center and unfortunately in our small town news travels fast.
That got him all pissy, he hates small town gossip, yada yada. I said, this is the reality, we cannot sweep it under the rug, it is what it is.
So he was in a foul mood when he left. Sorry that he can't quietly sneak away from his commitments without anyone in the world knowing, geez.............
