1) "Is what I am about to do or say going to draw W closer or push her farther away." Be very conscience of her reactions to your actions. (IE Monitor results carefully) Do more of what works. Stop doing what doesn't work.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712