Thankfulness and Perseverance

[dl443322]

Hey S, believe me, the courts have seen spouses lie and I have to think that for the most part, they could see through it.

I just came from my therapist. She said, B you are loyal and honest to a fault. But sometimes that loyalty is a detriment. Sometimes the other person is just wrong, not a good person, or a liar. I said, I know no other way to be. Not my problem about the other person. I am who I am.

So S, be your wonderful self. Show them who you really are. And if you can find it in your heart to feel sorry for your wife because she is lost, then realize where her words are coming from. She is scared and has to blame someone else or she needs to look inward. She is incapable of that right now, so you are the scapegoat.

S, speak the truth and live well. That's all you could do right now. Keeping you and yours in my thoughts and prayers.

[SirPrizeMe]

Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I will BM.

Due to the snow and the holiday, the divorce trial is continued (delayed) until January.

During her testimony she described different episodes where the kids are showing how upset they are. Tears, moodiness. They were forced to move. The economics are just starting. It is not going to get easier for any of them.

I pray for the spirit of Christmas to descend upon her and envelop her in good will.

She looks tired. She gained a ton of weight. Heaviest I have ever seen her. Her face is drawn.

Stay well BM. Think good thoughts!

Today I listened to choral Christmas music, it was so inspiring. It warmed my heart.

[dl443322]

Your wife is slowly feeling the effects of her actions. Sadly, though she is going to keep blaming you. One day, I believe, she will realize the truth. How she chooses to handle it, will be the test.

ry, if you can, not to think about the trial. Just enjoy the holidays with your kids and make magic happen.

[nutfarmer]

Best wishes for the holidays Sir. I hope that 2009 is easier for you than 2008.

I say easier rather than better because you have done a fantastic job of concentrating on positive side of your life and have found a lot of good amongst the difficulties. Having said that...I bet easier would be nice.

Nut

[SirPrizeMe]

Hey thanks Nut - I wish you the best in the coming year too.

I hope for a friendlier year in 2009. I could use that. I'm tired of the hostility, the daily battle, the attorneys, court motions. I don't mean friendlier from her - just less hostility and less struggle in general. I don't want to fight any more.

[SirPrizeMe]

Today's thought on perseverance:

One may go a long way after one is tired. ~supposedly a French Proverb

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, Sir.

I've just read through your sitch (and thank you for posting to mine). I have to say that the world would be a much better place if there were more men like you. You actually remind me of my Dad. My mom left him after 30 years of marriage, and when she re-married, she told me she was not going to do it "legally" so she could keep her alimony. (My mom is the real original "material girl"). Anyway, I told her not to put me in that position, so she then called my Dad and asked him if she got re-married, how would that change her income. My dad told her that as far as he was concerned, she was a good wife to him for 30 years, and he didn't need the money, so he didn't see any reason why he would change anything. So, my dad paid my mom alimony for 8 years even though she had re-married up until the day he died.

That, my friend, is what's called honor! And that is what really makes a man! And you definitely have it!

((((((hugs))))))

[dl443322]

Wow, SC, what a man! It seems to me that they dont make men like our fathers anymore. My mom was an alcoholic. Though she had a difficult childhood to say the least, she tortured my dad daily. I dont know how he stood it, but stood it he did. He said he could not leave her, he took a vow and meant it and stood by her.

Well, S, you are made of the same stuff, a throwback, a real "man" with honor and integrity. Your wife doesnt even realize what she is giving up.

So thanks for restoring my faith in men a little. Keep on keepin on, my friend. It matters, all of it, it does.

[SirPrizeMe]

wow, what a story.
Well, you know, I'm not quite where your dad is. I need the money, so I can't sign up to that kind of support for her.

But I don't think anyone is served by all the rancor and fighting. The ends do not justify the means.

[glamgirl]

Wow Sir it sounds like you have a lot on your plate these days. I am sure at some point your w will have regrets if she doesn't have them already, but maybe she needs this. Maybe she needs to be on her own to see how good she really had it. Only then can she see the bigger picture.

Don't let her attack on your character get to you. You still know the real story.

SC that was a wonderful story. Brought tears to my eyes. It's amazing how some just have so much love in their hearts. Thanks for sharing that. We are reminded that love is NOT lost on everyone.