Oh no Babygirl. Don't read that poem.....please. It is sooo depressing. Don't hate yourself like the poem says. Don't blame yourself like it says. Don't do any of that stuff like it says.
Who are you going to believe? All of us here that have learned to love you for who you are or some "poem" that would nearly kill somebody to read it.....BTW I pray to God you did not write that b/c if you did.....I am very worried and afraid. You listen to us, those that love you and tell you the truth. Don't listen to the lies....don't read the lies. Stay away from that.
You are sick and this weather is so hard on you. You have tried to keep us all in good humor, but now you need us. So, lean on us. Vent on us, get mad as hell if you need to....but don't listen to him or that poem or anything else like that, sweetie. It is bad for you, honey. It is not what you need to read or listen to or be writing things like that yourself. Please tell me that you are not that person in that poem, b/c I will fight you on that point sweetheart! You are not her! Don't do that to yourself.
Oh yeah, I know I am trying to sound real tough here, huh? But the truth is, my heart hurts b/c I know you are feeling so tired, so weary, and so fragile. You can't carry this alone. You know what to do. You are smart. Too smart to let this get the best of someone who has the right stuff like you do. For a girl that has helped so many on this board and has lifted so many others......and especially given more hugs than any human being I have ever known.......don't you think you deserve that too?
Please talk to us and let us be here from you. We love you Babygirl. I can't tell you enough how special everyone thinks you are. I have read that all over this board. You have touched many, many people. That says a lot about you as far as I am concerned.
As for Puppy.... Man, we all just want to cry our hearts out don't we? But you know him......and he is okay. He didn't want to lead the people on by them thinking his M was surviving when the truth was that the attraction was gone. I think he discovered that he had detached himself to the point that he had lost his attraction for his W and if I remember correctly, he said he had even prayed that if she could not feel that for him, that God would take Puppy's attraction for his wife away. So, now, I think he will have peace even though they will get a D. That is possible, and several are in the process of finding that out. But that is not to say it doesn't have its painful moments, for sure. He did what he knew was right. I still see him as a success story. The M did not make it....but Puppy Dog Tails did make it. That is the difference and that is what I am believing more and more that this is what this board is about. Survival. He first said that he was going to take some time off, but I think so many protested that we about have him talked him into staying. As I tried to explain to him, it isn't whether his M survived or not, it is that he knows what works and what doesn't work and that is what the people need to know. Don't let that stitch get you down, Babygirl. He will be okay. Pup is a tough old dog, in spite of his name!
Okay, I will hush. But that poem scared me. Please let us hear from you. Please don't fold on us. We need you and most of all we still want to keep you around us.
You are loved, sweetie.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
