He hasn't conferred with me for 3 years about gifts. He hasn't wanted to give gifts from 'mom and dad' since he moved out.
He probably wants to split the cost on some. I'm okay with that...that is how it should be. This is the first xmas or bday that he's admitted to being stressed about money.
I so wanted to tell him that I'm stressed because a huge chunk of my money is sitting in a friggin lawyers office!!! ''
But...I held that in.
I am mad at myself though for telling him about invitations for new years and what the kids and I had thought about doing xmas eve and xmas day.... and including him. He didn't jump at them saying 'yea..that would be great'...he didn't sound enthused at all...so I wish I didn't mention anything.
I told him though that these were just ideas and offers for xmas eve, xmas and new years...we didn't have any plans set. I don't want to be accused of 'leaving him out'...let him decide what he wants to partake in. He's not planning fun that includes his kids...or me.
All this interaction, and working together for the kids xmas, is more than we've done in 3 years...Instead of 'doing it himself' he's actually asking for my opinion and idea!!....does he REMEMBER he sued me for D?????
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
