You know what Frank, sorry to say this but you haven't been married to her for some time now. Her "retaining" a legal assistant really doesn't change anything at this point. It's all the same.
J3B, I am with you..... Reading is great, but when reading discovery it is supposed to be a means to change. This happens when you take action, not when you read. Not for nothing but FrankD used to be the king of the Alpha Male quoting. He doesn't need to read any farking books to know what to do here. He simply needs to let his balls drop again and step up.
Candy coat it, nope... not my style.
Frank, do you remember Ty (originally Confused Mess, later Tiara Boy)? YOU are the man that spoke to him of strength, courage, and what it is to be a man. You were the one who sent him the Alpha Male manuscript. You were the one who showed him how to quit hanging on to unimportant actions and focus on what would make him better.
I remember this, ty remembers this. I read along and learned how to be a stronger man. I know that you have what it takes to work through this and find yourself again.
Look at the folks who are posting to you here Frank. There is some serious strength and knowledge trying to help guide you in the right direction here. It is up to you if you are going to open yourself up and let these fine peoples messages get through or not.
Lastly, do you know why Jack says he doesn't want to come back in a year and see you in the same exact situation? Because if you do not change, if you do not take action, and if you do not finally put YOURSELF first, that is exactly what is going to happen. Today, you are back to where you were before. Why did that happen Frank???? Because you allowed it to. You gave her the power again, you let her become more important than YOU, and you forgot what made you better the last time......
