I actually didn't think it would hurt as much as it does.
But I can take some solace in something my Counselor also said today:
W doesn't really believe that one man could make her happy. She's always on the lookout for a replacement. She never had the relationship with her father that my D's have with me so she doesn't feel safe unless the mas she is with puts a lot of energy into her and the relationship.
She will not be coming back because she does not know how to truly love a man, but knows how to drain a man so she can feel loved. She does the same thing to our daughters.
She will not be coming back. Someday there will be someone who will love me like an adult, but it won't be W.
I'm hurt, but I'm also sad for her because I know she'll struggle until she finds a new man to support her and adore her. Maybe she'll burn him out, maybe it'll be a series of men. One thing for sure is that she'll never, ever find a man like me.
Maybe a man like me isn't what she needs though. I think that's probably the case. Too complicated.
I am sorry that you had a rough day.
But are you saying that you spent your whole counseling session talking about your wife?
Because that is the most wasteful thing I can imagine you doing right now.
Additionally, and I'm not trying to be mean to you but here's the deal:
You, nor your counselor, have any right to analyze your wife, predict her future or what she will presumably cost anyone that may be in it. You just don't have a right. And to break it down further, it's also not your business.
Get on with the business of dealing with Frank.
Everything else IS what it IS and doesn't concern YOU unless it affects the girls.
And once again, I HIGHLY recommend that you SEE A LAWYER!
Or do you intend to martyr yourself to such a degree that your wife ends up back in that house - and YOU OUT - so you can continue to feel comfortably abused?
You are banking on your wife's guilt not allowing her to take half your sh*t.
My friend, I would NOT take that gamble if I were you.
