First of all, what you are thinking is not going to win you points. You have got to put those thoughts out of your mind. If you do or say anything derogatory about her to your H, it will put him on the defensive and he will stand up for ow and run right back to her.

And I hate to say it but these spouses also are just as much to blame as the ow.

IRMAT: It would help if you post under one thread so all of us can follow what is going on with you. Thanks.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19