Partner left after 9 years - now what?

[GFI]

hi there Ali - I would think for MIL that was quite a stretch! Good for her - for sticking her neck out i think...you have my admiration for writing back...and fwitw - I think that's the right thing to do...

Good for you for getting intolerant! From some angles you've been too tolerant for too long! But I also hope that you realise that no-one here or in you "real" life will hold that against you! i'm the same Ali - as you will know.

I like the sound of this- to "not think about the NC and focus on your own amazing and excellent life"

Ali - you reminded me some time ago that the best way to draw my w back to me was to let go...and grow some greener grass...

We all know that your lawn is greener than green - but now's the time to start showing some pride in it, being a bit canny with what you reveal and sometimes taking it further ... i'm dragging out some old male thoughts here but I think its highly unlikely that your ex or for that matter any male could ignore a "sorted, vivacious, sexy woman"...

What with that thought and john210's thread - I have a problem!!!

Best - GFI