My instinct is, whatever is/isnt going on with him, the reality is, he has chosen to move in with a new gf and holiday with her parents in Ireland. He may realise his mistake, it may not last, he may miss you.. all these things are possible, so as long as you dont fall out, and stay in some contact, then I guess you may have a chance with him in the future, IF this R doesnt work out. Thats how I view my sitch. What else can you do?
My friend says the biggest factor for having an R with someone, is proximity (did he meet OW at work, like my ex did?) but that rings true for us too.. if you still love him and hold onto some hope, then you have to be in his proximity in some respect? But for now... I think we have to let them go.
I agree his text sounded nicer, maybe he feels slightly less awkward after it went well and you did such a good job when you saw him last time! So he will call tommorow.. whats he calling about? Estate agents? It doesnt sound like he *wants * to meet up, so I would say dont push for a meeting?
You are doing amazingly well Julia, you have such grace and fortitude through all of this, you are an inspiration to me! I am like a wet wallowy thing, wallowing in what-ifs compared to you!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
