Should I expose him or not?

[marisol35]

I have been reading many situations here and seeing how supportive everyone is. I hope I can gain some insight on my situation from all of you....

Here it goes....

My H and I have known each other for about 18 yrs....we were high school sweethearts and had a daughter when we were 19. When she was 2yrs old he left us for someone else, married her, and had a son. They divorced about 4 yrs later and we kept in contact for my D. About 8 yrs ago we moved in together and we married just last year in Sept. It was only about 6 months into the marriage that he totally changed. This was the 1st affair with a 35yr old married woman that he knew from his past. He moved out, then back in, and we tried working things out. This was only because he didn't want to be a father to her 3 kids. Three months later he had a 2nd affair with the 21 yr old secretary at his work. This one didn't have kids and loves to have a good time (go figure). Needless to say, H moved out in August and has not been back. The OW pretty much lives in the rental with him and his son. The A has been exposed to his parents and mine. He no longer works for the company where they met but she still does. He quit....he is in real estate and is beyond broke. She has been supporting him financially but she doesn't make near enough to support him and herself. I can go on and on....

But, to my question about exposure is that throughout this whole time he has been away at least once a month he sends me text msgs that are pretty explicit (if you know what I mean). I still can access his email and from time to time when I look (which I know I shouldn't) I see how he tells her how much he loves her, wants to make a life with her, she's the one for him, bla bla bla....she's telling him about being his wife and that she will stand by him bla bla......and yet he is sending me these types of msgs.. so in other words he is "cheating" on OW. Just last night in the middle of the night he sends me graphic pics asking me to go over to his house.....I was floored...I also know he is still talking to the 1st woman he had an A with and she doesn't even know.....he continues to lie to her....

So my question is.....should I send these msgs to OW? Just as he did this to me he is doing it to her.....he is obviously not going to stop this behavior and it must be stopped. She also deserves a taste of her own medicine if you ask me...... I know he will be furious with me but I have absolutely nothing to loose.

Any thoughts would be truly appreciated....