Funny you ask - I have been floundering the last 3 months, and it's mostly because of not having any goals, or anything like that - i.e. going dark, etc.
I set one very simple goal two days ago: having dinner together as a family. We used to do it ALL the time - like 2-3 times a week, and she has completely stopped it.
So, back to you, I've missed exactly your status - couldn't find it. Are you actually in divorce proceedings?