So I think H is a total cake eater and when he left I think he wanted to be able to go and come as he likes although he said that he's not coming back. So I took the key back. Now, I've been trying to do some 180s, like backing off and not calling, making myself busy and not answering all his calls. I think I have done all the work in this R and H needs to do the work if he want to save it. He called me on Tues saying that he's sorry and he knows that he has hurt me and he still loves me but he hasn't call me back since. I called him yesterday and he cut me off and said he would call back but hasn't. I'm trying very hard to not call him back and to be unreachable when he does call.
So last weekend, I actually went into H's bank acct and took $$ to pay the mortgage and of course he was pissed off. He called yelling and I told him that I paid the mortgage with it. He of course took back him $, changed his pw and said that I must pay the mortgage myself since I told him to get out of my house, which I did say and I know that was wrong. Anywa after that I text H saying that since he doesn't want anything to do with our town, he needs to find car insurance for his place in the city by 12/21. He said he would. Is that wrong to do? But I think since I have to struggle to pay a mortgage by myself H should have to struggle too. His license is terrible and I know that he won't get insurance in his name. I was planning that if he doesn't find insurance I am still requesting that he surrender his license plates and if he doesn't that I would go and take them off his car. I'm not sure if this would be totally wrong to do though b/c H always says I try to control everything and I know this would be controlling. But at the same time I think H has been so disrespectful to me through the years for his son and OW and I have taken it. Should I put my foot down here? Please advise. Thank you so much.
