I took my ring off when I confirmed that OW was leaving her H and moving here. I left the pictures up. I did eventually take them all down. But, I waited for a while. I gave him time to see that I still thought of us as married...that he was still part of the family. He didn't seem to notice when I finally did remove them, but, then again, he hasn't been noticing a lot of what I do for a long time!!!

I think it's fine to leave them up. Every thing has it's time. You may find that after a while you just don't want to have them there anymore...or, she may find that she likes them and wants to come home so she can see them everyday! Who knows.

Sounds like you are doing all the right things as far as I know. Have you set DB goals for the R, and are you noticing progress towards those goals?

Don't worry about the call from the school. You can't control it, so don't waste energy on it. Although, since the call came to your house, you do have every right to ask about it, I think.

Take care of yourself and those kids!!!

Amy

Me 39 H 36
S 7 S 4
T 15 M 12
H out 8/1/08
OW confirmed 8/6/08
D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!