Hi Puppy, I am scared. If I expose at work they will both be fired. I know it is the ethical thing to do but I also have to think about D15 and myself and the negative impact it will have. These are the things that keep me awake at night.
1) financial loss where we can longer stay in our house 2) embarrassment and shame for myself at work (I know I am not supposed to feel like this since I am not the one that had the affair - maybe it is a woman thing!) 3) possible negative impact to my career (turning your own husband in) 4) Having to pull my D15 out of school which she loves and moving back east and getting job transfer. Also she is in a prep school and will be earning up to 60 college credits upon graduating which will help later in paying for her education.
PD, you made me laugh about the uncle story. I had an uncle also that reminds me of yours. Except when everyone was screaming and yelling at the kids, he would hold his back hand up and say "the cat saw this", all the kids would go running and hiding to escape the wrath of "uncle Johnie"
On another note..how are you doing? Guess the Christmas of 2008 will not be the best for you also. You are in my prayers. I know how difficult it is for a long term marriage to crumble. I always thought I was in this for life also. I know the problems in my marriage and have been doing personal inventory on them but did you find yourself here? I think of what we are losing and how it should be. Thanks for stopping by
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
