I purposely didn't cal her all day after the events of last night. She finally called a short while ago ,I was pleasant and we had some small talk. She asked me if I wanted to do something on Sat like set up the Christmas tree etc. I thought about it and said yes, she said I guess we should have a chat as well.
My intentions are to have the chat see where it goes but I think I need to get real with her about what is going on. Not mean but show strenght she seems to respond to that. If I am to put the separation on hold I think I need a little more commitment from her that she is going to work on herself, and set some ground rules. I am prepared to move on if she is unable to agree to setting some gorund rules.
I am guessing that by not screaming and yelling about OM being over and not giving her a reaction spoke louder than being crazy and screaming at her. She seems to be reacting to the strong silent thing, I now know that no matter what I won't compromise my values any longer and she would have to accept that.
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
