It got me thinking though and i would be interested in other peoples opinions on their spouses choices.
Why do they settle for less - It seems that this is not uncommon to go for someone who is less in lots of areas. I don't mean to be nasty but it can be areas of looks, financial stability, health , social standing etc. Is this the low self esteem of the spouse that leaves ?
My C said to try not to get involved with someone for at least a year as you will know who you are and what you want and time on my own will do me the power of good.
I think it would also mean that if you choose another partner or if you get back together with your H or W you are on much more healthier ground. In my case we would become not the 16 year olds that grew up together but we would be making the decision to make the M work as adults and our attitudes and rules would be different than what they have been before.
I also feel a sense of responsibility to my kids , not to choose someone who embarresses them or to re-enter a marriage that makes them feel unsettled and insecure.
