Mike, I know it is realistic that some are done from the get go, no 2 ways about it......I just didn't want to think my H was in that category. It has been easier thinking he was torn and still part of him wanted me. To think he has made a 100% decision hurts...but so it goes.
Esp. considering he went to retro, wrote me long pages of letters trying to explain his feelings, said he couldn't live with me BUT couldn't live without me, etc. If he did all that fully knowing he was gone but biding his time to make his arrangements, well that is terrible.
And YES, she uses guilt as a weapon. Her dad is a lovely man, very nice, loves me to death, says I am his granddaughter. Her mom is very nice but I think depressed, she is always complaining but in a gentle way. For example, we will go out to eat and she will say, "These potatoes are okay but they are better at Bob Evans"...."This place is nice but I like (insert place) better"...etc etc Kind of glass half empty
Oh well that will no longer be my issue will it...
