My wife told me on Nov 2nd, that she didn't feel the same for me. She said it's been progressive over the last 4 years. We have been married 15 years and have 2 kids, her 20 yr old daughter by a previous marriage, and our 11 year old son.(I am 50 , she is 43) Initially she wasn't sure if we should separate, then after a couple days of thought she told me she could only give one day at a time. Since then, I have tried to talk to her, I've written letters, but she really won't respond to anything I do. I told her that I didn't want to lose my wife or my family and that they mean the world to me. She says she knows how I feel, and gets short with me when I try to talk to her about it. All she will say is that things have been going good since Nov 2nd. We still are intimate, and when leaving for work tell each other I Love You. I know from reading the other letters on the blog, that this is far from the worst conditions possible. What has me rattled is the word, Divorce, is still hanging over my head. I have been trying to be as good as I can be at home, hoping that she will let me know if her feelings change. Mostly she says I'm going overboard and driving her crazy. So far she only will say things are going good daily. Sometimes I feel as though once the holidays are over, I'm going to be history. I was hoping this would blow over but, as of today, she says it's been going good so far and thats all she'll say. When I ask, she acts as though it irritates her. I guess it's all that I can do to just be open and receptive about this to her. She also doesn't want to do any counseling saying she isn't ready for that. She doesn't want me to tell anyone else about this either. I had to talk to someone though, so I am speaking to a counselor about it. For me, I'm worried sick... I've lost 18 pounds over this. She has told me there is no one else involved and she has not been to an attorney. How should I proceed ? Do I just shut up and let her work it out ? I'm out of ideas ...Thanks for Listening, R
