Well, I think it is best to just stop thinking about what she is doing, thinking whatever. Go with your gut. Yes it will be a different Christmas but something everyone may sadly have to get used to. But I think this has to be what works for you right now.

I had planned on doing my own thing without having to mess with him and now he will be over on x-mas eve. He wants some family time is my thinking, ah well, it is my only gift to him. Peace and a night with the family. But you know we don't have all that other stuff you do, the slowing you down when you pick them up, the constant trying to get you to stay for dinner, the will you get me this or that at the store kind of garbage.

We each pick our own stands to take.

kat

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