You are looking for answers where there might not be any. That kinda sucks, but it is the way it is.
Maybe you eat too many vegetables, or wear the wrong color of socks? I don't know.
It seems to me that you have made it clear what you want. And he has made it clear that it is not what he wants. Where do you want to go from there?
That sounds a little harsh, but at this point it seems to be the way it is. I think you did everything right. You got to the point of reestablishing contact, and even friendship. That was a big step. And now, he is even comfortable enough to communicate to you what he does not want. So, again, it comes down to where do you want to go from here?
