Kristi...it will be okay. The anniversary and Christmas will be tough. He's starting to realize that you won't just hang around and wait for him to get his act together, and that's scary to him.
I think you should communicate as little as possible...then, it doesn't matter how you do it or the tone. Keep emails/texts as short as possible...just the necessary info. If you look back at your emails that you discussed above, there was way more than necessary info. You probably shouldn't have sent the one about how he "sounded disappointed about not watching the kids..." See what I mean?
You'll get there. Keep you chin up...remember that you are an incredible woman and you deserve to be treated as such!
Be strong.
Love to you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!