well which messes? He spent the euphoric stage in the affair running from our debt and spending $$ on his whore like no tomorrow. I did not get a job til he came home
hes still in denial as to how much he actually spent in that time as well as her upkeep after he came home for 8+ months. I only found out by snooping.
I think what ever keeps him from being intimate with me hes got his head stuck in the sand as well. He will look me in the eye and say hes back 100% and hes everything a husband should be......oooops.....that would be denial wouldnt it??????
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest