Or they'll find some other way to harass my daughter. That's what I'm afraid of. And Pup, there's no accountability there--I'm quite familiar with the whole system. If you're on the good list, you can do no wrong. If you're on the other list, you can do no right. And that's just the staff!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
got an email from H--he's picking up D from her program tonite for the night. Of course he's not participating in the carpool or hauling the other kids. And she doesn't have her school uniform for tomorrow because they were out of uniform today. So guess what--now I have to meet them somewhere with her uniform unless I can figure out an alternative. I hate this--I don't even get to spend time with her but I still have to do the running around.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Why can't he bring her to your house earlier for her to put her uniform on?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Tell him by email voice mail or whatever that he will need to come get her uniform. Is him having D for this night a planned thing or is it a last minute thing? If it's a last minute thing then it should be even less of an issue for you. He's a parent too, he has to do some running around.
If he tries to manipulate you to get you to deliver it, simply say 'No' in as light hearted *nah, I don't feel like doing that but thanks for asking* tone as you can manage. He is a parent, when he has D then he should be responsible for all day to day stuff. You guys are separated, you are no longer running round to make things easier for him.
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
Turns out tomorrow is an out-of-uniform day too, they were just surprised with that today. And I was able to talk with her and she brought clothes with her to the choir event, so I don't have to go running around.
But I won't see her from last night until tomorrow night--I hate this part. Does it ever get easier?
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012