Thanks Yoyo! I already just printed it out last night and turned it in to the L this am. If she doesn't like what I did and I have to redo it, then I may take you up on it.
D9 went with me to the L's office today. She's become friends with the L's legal assistant. She told me D9 was telling her today she was worried I might not be able to get her a Christmas present, but maybe I could get her a $3 one or something she said. Um, I think D9 is going to be getting as many presents from me as possible this year, so she won't worry so much. I felt awful about that!!! Karen
karen, I feel bad that I won't be able to get the kids the kinds of things I normally do but part of that is the comercialism of Christmas. The kids know that it won't be a big Christmas and I think they are ok with that.
I know it is harder for D8 to understand compare to her brothers and of course now D10 has decided that she will test Santa by not telling a soul what she wants from him! I'm really not ready for her to not believe. I'll figure out a way, maybe have her write a letter to Santa.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
D9's been asking questions. Last night she was asking if Santa is real. I told her I like to believe in Santa and magic. So probably warped her some more...
H is sending lots of emails today. S15 has to get teeth pulled and cavities filled. D9 isn't wearing her glasses enough (she keeps setting them down all over although I've tried to get her to use the case)!
Asked if I had set it up for S15 to get gas or medication tomorrow (for a tooth cleaning). Gave him the number but said I would call if he wanted. He sent back an email: I'll call. He's such a jerk. I just feel like he tries to find stuff to make me out to a bad person or bad mom. Don't know how I put up with it for so long really!!! Karen
D9's been asking questions. Last night she was asking if Santa is real. I told her I like to believe in Santa and magic. So probably warped her some more...
H is sending lots of emails today. S15 has to get teeth pulled and cavities filled. D9 isn't wearing her glasses enough (she keeps setting them down all over although I've tried to get her to use the case)!
Asked if I had set it up for S15 to get gas or medication tomorrow (for a tooth cleaning). Gave him the number but said I would call if he wanted. He sent back an email: I'll call. He's such a jerk. I just feel like he tries to find stuff to make me out to a bad person or bad mom. Don't know how I put up with it for so long really!!! Karen
karen, I know that D11 knows about Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy.....
She just doesn't let ME know she knows. A couple years ago, she questioned Santa and I told her, "Well, if you don't believe, we'll just wait and see if you get anything."
Now THATS warping them.
Don't know if you remember, but the talk I had with her at my monms house, just after the wife moved out, I was telling D11 how I'll always tell her the truth....
That was the first thing out of her mouth. "Okay, is Santa real?"
I don't remember what I told her, but I somehow deflected it. I think I said something like, "Santa is real if you want him to be."
You are one of those cases where I just believe that you are better off without your H, karen. He just treats you badly and sounds like he has for some time now. You know the kind of mother you are. He is just used to you handling everything. Let him handle some responsibility. Don't let him lead you to believe that you are anything less than a great mom.
We are not perfect parents. And he is not even 1/4th the parent you are.
Now go have a bit of chocolate and don't let him control your emotions.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
We are not perfect parents. And he is not even 1/4th the parent you are.
Now go have a bit of chocolate and don't let him control your emotions.
I know. We are good parents. It's just so much easier when you have them 1 day a week to criticize the other parent that has them the 6 days! I mean I wouldn't b/c I know, but I think he doesn't really realize how stressful it is. I am so tempted in a tiny part of me to give into him and let him have full custody of the kids, the tiny evil part of me. But I won't of course. And now you've got me thinking about some chocolate truffles I've got in the kitchen. They were supposed to be a gift but they looked so good! Karen
That reminds me of my D10 asking if Sara was real. Sara is the Triceratops at Universal that moves, "breathes" and wets! I said of course she is, don't you see her. The question she didn't ask is if she was really alive!! So I think that has to go with Santa too. We are all Santa's helpers and wear the badge proudly and the magic is there as long as they allow it. So yes, Karen, tell D9, there is a Santa Claus you just don't need to reveal the alternate identity!
Hugs to you and your sweet kids!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I've only got about 2 left now! But with Christmas coming, there will be the kid's stockings to raid, and I always put a good supply of chocolate in mine too!!!
H called me. I have a call into the drs office to get permission for sedation to be used on S15 at his cleaning tomorrow because he's not an adult. He has had cleanings before and been ok, but H brushes his teeth for him lately(he does have those autism issues) and S15 struggles with his dad. Well, duh of course S15 doesn't like that!
I think he should be ok with the hygeniest who is really nice and everything. So I'm doing the sedation permission, but told him I only want to do that in case it's the only way they can do it. I bought some blue dye for kids bubble-gum flavor that stains their teeth blue before brushing and then I'm going to inspect their teeth and make sure the blue dye is gone I told H and I'm hoping he'll do that too. I think S needs to learn how to do it at least well enough to get by and no more cavities! My H is such a pita. Thinking about moving again. Actually I'm thinking/hoping H will way back off after the D esp. if I get custody. He's never given much of a crap about the kids before this past 6 months or so and is getting more and more fatherly right before the D.
Oh, the consignment shop owner also called me and she wants me to work there 12 to 3 or 4 so a couple hours Saturday. The kids will be with there dad, so that and packing to move should keep me busy this week. Karen
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