I will start by giving the latest stitch,then my response. I have been keeping detached but remaining kind and cheerful. Last night while at work she texted me stating that her "friend" OM was over at our house and that she didn't want me to be surprised. She said he wouldn't be over for long. I ignored her text. I didn't want to respond because I was !@#$%$@ mad and wanted to dwell on the sitch before reacting.
She eventually called me and I picked up. She asked if I got her text. I said yes and she said I just wanted to let you know and that it was no big deal. Keeping my temper in check I said,calmly, that I wasn't happy about it. and said I have to go. She said that it's ok nothing is going on ( she was whispering)I said why are you whispering? She repeated the statement with full volume. I heard a male voice in the back ground. I said I got to go (calmly) She begged me not to be mad at her, I remained calm and said again I have got to go goodbye and hung up.
Later she called a couple of times I didn't pick up. She sent me another message stating why are you ignoring me? I texted back I'm busy at work, and haven't talked since.
She called her mother up telling her that the OM had gone home and that they were going to just be friends. Her mother gave her crap for having him there at all. Her mother told me that he wanted her to go over to his place but she said she didn't want to go, so he came over to our house.
She also told her mother that she didn't want me to be alone at christmas and that she was ok with me going to her mothers for christmas dinner.
Regarding the christmas dinner issue based on the tone of her voice and the recent events I am leaning towards going. She has told her mother that maybe if her and I do something together she would see if we get along.
I am looking at going to dinner first because I want to see my In laws they have been great to me and to see her aunts and uncles because we get along. I have to work at 10 pm that night so I can't travel far to see my family as they live a couple of hours away. Going to dinner here is very convenient.
Having no expectations and doing this because I want too, I wonder about if this would be an opportunity to do something together without the pressure of being alone together. Just having a good time not thinking of R.
WoW long winded answer for a short question!
Cheers Jeff
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June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
