How to know when to let go PT2????

[sandi2]

Hey Kristi, it's almost the weekend and would love to hear from you. I know things are going to get hectic here in the next few day. Did you ever start your Christmas shopping? This is going to be one of our "lean" years due to the fact my H has not been able to work as much as he used to.

This may not apply to you or any of the girls that have been posting to you, but as I have said, we never know who may be reading and perhaps something we say will help them through a bad time. When my H and I were younger and our children were small, there were times that our finances were so bad that we wondered if there would be a gift from Santa under the tree on Christmas morning. Then one Christmas we nearly lost one of those children. In fact, there have been two Christastimes that we nearly lost her. One year during the holidays, my grandfather passed away. We are certainly not the only ones that get hit with things of this nature during this time of year. It is not God that is being mean to us......man is the one that set that date on the calendar as to be the day we celebrate Christmas. Anyway, when I nearly lost my child, that is when I learned that those material gifts did not mean a thing to me.....I only wanted her to live. Those material gifts are nice to give and to receive and I have learned to enjoy the "fat" years and when the "lean" years hit....I know that God will get us through it....He always has. It is those "gifts" that money cannot buy that I have learned to treasure. So, if there is anyone out there that is worried about not having enough money during this bad economical time in the USA, please believe that you will get pass that.....you will come through it. Try to focus on what Christmas is about.....if you are a Christian and celebrate the birth of Christ, then that is the reason for the season (as the popular saying goes).

As far the emotional pain during this time, I can partly identify with that also. Won't go into all of it, but I know how bad one can hurt at this time of year and it has nothing to do with money or even health.......it is other painful things we are going through. I know that Kristi and a lot of "my girls" will be facing this Christmastime with much difficulty. I want to just tell them that they are not alone and please do not feel that you are. We may not be there physically with you, but we are in love and spirit. Most of all, God is there and although the pain may not disappear for you right then......please try to have faith that it will get better.

I am proud of the stand that you have taken, but it is a hard time.....not that anytime is easy, but it seems to be harder for some at this time of year. Perhaps it would help to not watch the warm, fuzzy, family Christmas movies, or the sad ones, but try to find comical things to watch. Try to tune out all the commercial things you see in town and everywhere you go. Stay focused on what your goal is and take one day.....or one hour at a time and keep talking to yourself and telling yourself that you can do this......you do have the strength.....you are applying tough love and standing up for your self respect.......and just take baby steps.

Hope you get time to drop a line, so we won't be so worried. It just helps us to know you are okay. And if you are NOT okay....then we certainly want you to come to us....alrighty?

Kristi, you are loved, sweetheart. I have not known you long, but sometimes a person doesn't have to, in order to realize that you are a special lady who deserves much better than she has had.

Please take care of yourself. Be good to yourself.....and pamper yourself. If he won't treat you like a queen...then treat yourself like one!

Sandi