Just wanted to check in as I haven't posted for awhile.
As you know I think the increasingly personal contact is a very positive sign.
I do agree with Julia about the idea of some kind of goals, or maybe just indicators if you want to look at it that way. I have found that it's useful to keep a list of things that would indicate to you that things are going in the right direction. So your end goal is a happy and loving relationship. Within that are there major steps that need to happen, like Julia suggested, maybe living together? I think you can look for indicators without setting specific short-term goals.
So, for example, let's say that you think one building block for the happy and loving relationship is moving in together again. What would be some steps that show you things are moving in that direction? These could be very small like your H coming over 1 night per week, him leaving stuff there etc. When a certain percentage of these steps happen, you might feel more certain that you are on the way. Maybe another indicator is intimacy, again could be broken down into things like ML, personal conversations etc. If you don't feel that it's right, you wouldn't have to do anything toward these milestones, but keeping track alone can be confidence-boosting I think.
Anyway, just an idea. Hope all is well today!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
