I'm so sorry, Sir. But don't lose faith in yourself! It's a tactic, that's all. Even if she seems to believe it in her heart, it's still a tactic that allows her to extricate herself without feeling guilt. Except that eventually, she will.
I would think that the court would not place much weight on her "hearsay" statement. You could mention that the friend denied saying those things.
You're far from being a terrible person. In fact, most of us think you're a pretty wonderful person. You'll be in my prayers thru the trial.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012