Welcome back! Dam*, I knew when I listed all those who responded to me, I'd leave someone out. Sorry! I think what makes this easier for me than you might be the fact that I've realy been apart from my STBX for well over 2 years, and the year in Iraq was really a life-changing experience for the better. Nothing like 81 MM mortars and 107mm rockets landing on your work area to give you clarity of thought! Also, we've know each other for 20 years, and have always had fun. I know a lot about her already. The breaking point for me was in 2007, leaving for Iraq, my kids wrapped around me crying, my STBXW, DID NOT even say goodbye. She just sat in the car. THAT'S when I moved on. Another factor with "gym woman" is the mutual feeling of this. We spent a whole day just talking (and other stuff!) about where we were in life, and what we wanted and what was important. You're right, though, YOU NEVER KNOW, but my moving on, has been going on for a long time, even without finding someone else.
Hey Flynn,
My STBX is WHACKED. She's unstable and probably also drinks too much. She HATES the world, and is so incredibly angry all the time. Case in point: My S10 had a presentation at school yesterday. she arrived late. There was a seat next to me. S10 points to it and said "Sit there, mom". She proceeds to move to the other side of the room, and STANDS for an hour so she doesn't have to be near me, as though I was the one scre&ing MY boss for the last 18 months. GET OVER YOURSELF!
