Hopeful Husband first it sounds like you are doing better for yourself handling this better than you may think so give yourself some credit. Now as far as your appitite being like this it is because you are still in a state of shock and how to cope with all of this so suddenly and unexpected of the one you love most, it is almost unvbelievable that this is and could happen but it is. Going by what you are saying about the guy and your wife I would say that they are being open and sharing feelings in thier talks and of course making you sound worse than you are. You have to understand that your wife is under satans control and that satan has set her up with this guy that is under his control. Satan always has someone ready to step in our place when one spouse falls away. Now your wife will start off maybe not purposely looking for a listening hear but satan will send one along that will and it will progress from there. She will feel comfortable to open up and talk to someone that appears to care which is satans deception that she won't pick up on. If she thinks or sees it as friendship it is simply a lie, satan is hard at work here. Basically she is already committing adultery. Now if things were to progress for them into something physical/intimate yes it is wrong, but for you it will be if you love her enough to forgive her of her mistake. Do not kid yourself and believe that this situation may for ever be a friend thing. Satan at work here just wants total distruction that is his goal. You must maintain self control at all cost, like I said before sometimes it is better to know less. Then if you get back together someday and they confess these things on there on without any pressure from you and you are prepared for that confession and have aleady forgiven them in your heart this will go much better for the both of you in a recovering marriage. God wants the best for both of you. I said a specific prayer last night and God answered me in a big way today, did't have to do with may wife but just that he is still working in our marriage that is all I can say for now. Your wife needs your prayers and you must take a stand with God. The squelling of tires if they know it is from you will just make her think she is leaving a bad person and that you haven't changed any. Keep in mind every move you make and everything you say and do will be analized with much scrutanity like you are under a microscope. Do everything you can to work on yourself over time maybe she will notice a different you and the you she feel in love with. As far as she cares right now she is done. One thing I will say don't give it to God and then take it back like I have done many times, man I can tell you just how much this slows things down and keeps the pain hanging around so much longer. I am the type of person that likes to know what is going on too but if I intervene she will despise me even more and she has to go through some trial and find that she misses me. If I don't let her miss me and I get in the way it may never get any better, this is why God needs to handle this. Like you my wife is very beautiful, yes I would brag on her in many ways just cause she is so wonderful. Satan will want you to give up so that he will have victory but you need to delare to him that you are standing with God. Find in the bible verses that you can declare to satan "that it is written." You will have to fight him with God and God's word, whatever you say to him he has to obey, God has given you power and authority over him. You have to make a choice to follow God or not. Love you brother stand strong with the Lord.
