So true. When a person wants to think the worst, they will have many opportunities to do so. There is a way of putting it in the Landmark Forum ( A friend of mine shared this): The WAS is in a 'Always Aready' mode of perception, which loosely translated means they have a filter that colors their perception of situations.
I really don't like the girl she is going to the beach with. She caused a really big problem for my wife and I. I unwisely complained to her about my W and she told her. W broke a mirror over it. This girl then asks if my D could be the flower girl at her wedding, but doesn't 'feel comfortable' with me being there.
Most of W's friends aren't very supportive of us working out our problems, as far as I can tell. Only one former employee, a very strong Christian, stood up for me.
All the others are just negative influences when it comes to viable longterm relationships.
W has chosen such people to hang with for several years. So stinking weird.
Truth is, I would be stupid to let W come back without some sort of epiphany on her part. She has a lot of problems.
Thanks for the feedback, DR. It means a lot. Few people really seem to care except for those on this board.
I guess you have to experience something before you have compassion on others in a particular situation.
Last edited by native; 12/18/0805:27 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
