AmyC, that was like the wussiest lashing I have ever read from you....
Frank, have you ever watched a Hamster in one of those wheels??? They go round and round and round, over and over and over... They never get anywhere. They feel like they are working their asses off, but they never make any progress. The reason they don't Frank????? That's right, it's because the area they are focusing their attention on leads to nowhere.
Frank, I love ya buddy, I really do. I cherish our talks and I truly believe you are one of the kindest men I know. I also know that it hurts watching this. It hurts watching such an incredible dad, an incredibly loving husband, and an outright nice guy spin his wheels so damn hard and yet stand completely still.
When people say "do work", they are speaking of work that leads you to where you need to be. Not just any work.
Frank, you have got to get off the spinning wheel and change your focus. Absolutely nothing today is about her anymore. It is all about you. Until you get that and change your focus and direction away from HER, you will continue to spin the wheels.
AND......
Before you say that you know this and you know what to do, stop.I don't want to hear it. I want to see it.
You handled the first call from her great today, and then proceeded to destroy all the work you did on that call when you responded on the second. You took a great situation which you took control of and destroyed it. For what? To get a little jab in. To let her know things in your home are rough because of her choices.....Duhhhhhh you think she isn't aware of that already? Do you think hearing it today will snap her out of it and bring her around?
I struggle at times with your decisions when it comes to speaking with her. It just boggles my mind to see you put her needs and wants ahead of your own. What has she done lately to earn this respect and love from you???? Nothing that I have seen.
I will finish with this, whoever it was that posted for you to go read your alpha male stuff you used to post, was right. You have to find strength for Frank, no offense.... but fuckkk her right now. She doesn't deserve you right now Frank, make her earn your love and understanding, not for her... for YOU......
