Is it just me or does anyone else feel more threatened when they don't hear from their MLCer than they do when letters and horrible conversations abound?
On 11th November my H gave me 24hrs to agree to his latest strategy. I complied with that (and agreed) and I have heard absolutely nothing since and neither has my L despite asking for more info about what is going on.
Does this mean he is finally entering withdrawal (if so I am happy!) or does it just mean he is continuing to be manipulative b**t**d? (Or both )
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Or ... he is being a typical MLCer. Up and down, and round and round. He probably doesn't know what he really wants.
ACJ, you did what I would never be able to do ... approach a guy on my own. I saw at the bookstore there's a book on how to flirt. I forget the name now. But, the basic tenet is to be yourself ... don't we all know that one.
Keep having fun!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hi ACJ, I am so sorry that you are in so much emotional pain and that your kids give you so much heartache. I hope that they will see one day what a kind and loving mother you are to them.
hey sweets, I was so happy for you reading your earlier post, then the part about your son came up and I was sad again to hear you were feeling so bad. It never fails, once we get up and we find out footing we get knocked down by a new difficulty. I too often forget that my own son is a little man in the making and that what I've learned about men through my trial by fire applies to my little man too. And yes, as naej said, most teens enter a horrible stage in which you wonder which planet they came from. Praying for patience your way honey, be that happy woman you are finding is there, stay your ground, at some point your son will see you set boundaries for his own good, prob not anytime soon but you are doing the best for him even if he doesn't see that. Hugs)))))))))))) I'm confident you can have a wonderful christmas hon.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
D13 seems to think that S16 will visit at some point on Christmas day. When I asked her how she knew she said he had told her he had boought me a Christmas present. I had suggested to all of them that they club together and get me a voucher for the facial products I use. D13, bless her, said she would co-ordinate this. However, when she came to buy it S16 told her he had already bought something else and D18 wasn't around to give her any money. So she went and got a voucher just from her. I definately know she bought it b/c she rang me at work to ask me the name of the local beauty salon I had told her she could get it from and where it was. She is such a thoughtful young woman. I do hope she doesn't go off the rails like the other two have at some point in thier lives.
I'm trying to stay off the computer as much as I can at the moment as I have a repetitive strain injury. So if I don't come on here again before Christmas I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and that 2009 will be a better year for you all.
I have already decided that 2009 WILL BE MY YEAR. I have set a goal in my head for the D being complete by end of March (although at the moment that is looking unlikely). It's still not what I want but I'm being realistic and I want to move on. It begins with me starting my new job on 5th Jan and who knows what else will happen but I'm going to make darned sure that as much of it as possible is good, good, good (oh and did I say good!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
hugs)))))))))) that's the spirit! it will be your year even if things go not as planned, it will be your year because regardless you will have peace in your heart and you will grow as a person through your trials)))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
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