This has happened before in the financial world and it will happen again. The problem is that everyone panics and pulls out their money and then banks go boom(WaMu). The best thing is to talk to an adviser and stay calm. You should be able to get a statement and let your adviser look at it and see if other vehicles may be better for your goals. Yeah, I know I work in the industry.
Anyway it will all get better and we have a while until we retire. Keep on trucking and take care of your sweet angels.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
The girls and I were going over our weekend plans (who is watching them when I work, etc) and D4 said "Mom, I like it best when YOU babysit us." Love.That.Kid.
Tomorrow night I am going on a girls night excursion, that will last into the morning. My girlfriends and I are getting a hotel room at a casino in town. The band that is at one of the bars there tomorrow night is great, and of course, there is food, drinks and gambling. And spa stuff. My neighbor is taking the girls for the night, they are very excited too. I have to admit I am excited to let loose a bit!
Getting geared up for Christmas and D6 turning D7...next Friday!!! I found somebody that actually *wants* to work my shift on Christmas. Its a Festivus Miracle!!!
Girls night out ended early. My D4 didn't want to stay at my neighbors house. So I stayed for a bit longer, then went home. It was ok to be home, nice actually. I am 37 yrs old, not 21. I can have little bits of fun instead of huge nights. The girls were happy I came home too. I was where I wanted to be.
But guess what? Unless the girls tell him, xH will still think I spent the night out. Evil? Perhaps, but kinda funny. When I told him I was going to be gone, I could see the questions (and the teasing, I hate the "Oh lwb's got a boyfriend" teasing that he gives me sometime) about to bubble over. But he didn't ask or say a word, just nodded.
Wonderful day at home with the girls. Getting SO excited to shop, wrap, and cookie bake this week!!!!
But guess what? Unless the girls tell him, xH will still think I spent the night out. Evil? Perhaps, but kinda funny.
I still have to put up the tree!!! Been so busy doing other stuff. I vow to get it up before Christmas though!!!
I don't think you're evil at all, sounds like a good idea to me! But if your girls are anything like my girl, then they'll probably tell him. My D9 tells me all the stuff she tells H about exactly where I am (she also tells me he asks where I am btw) and stuff like that. She is the biggest gossip ever, but I gotta love her! (Don't know where she gets that from!) Karen
What an unexpected sad night with D4 last night. She was a mess at bedtime, crying hysterically for a very long time. "Why doesn't Daddy live with us? I want him to live here! I want to sleep with him here, in your bed!". It was almost unbearable.
D6 was very quiet during this time. She didn't leave the room (which she often does when D4 cries or even talk about this). I told her I was proud of her too, that she can tell me anything, doesn't have to be tough all the time.
D4. Sigh. I told a friend I feel like a piece of her sweet innocence was chipped away last night. I prayed long and hard for strength to help these girls through this, because apparently I am cleaning this mess up myself.
I did tell xH about her episode. Gave him a brief 10 second fact update, he was veeeerrry quiet, then said "Ok."
Must be something in the cosmos a'brewing. My S4 said something similar to me in the car after I picked him up from preschool yesterday. First he said that he misses his Mommy. He had just spent the night with W on Monday night (W keeps him for just the evening while I take his older brother to cub scouts -- but sometimes S4 wants to stay the rest of the night with his mother instead of coming back with me and S7.) He was thus intimating that he wanted to stay with W again,
So in response to S4's whine about missing his mother, I told him that I always miss him too when he stays with Mommy instead of me.
S4's response was to say he wants Mommy and Daddy together again. I started to get a little choked up. But I held it together and then concluded for S4 that that would be really nice but it's just not going to happen, sad to say.
Maybe it has to do with Christmas coming up? D9 has said a few times she wishes we could all spend Christmas together instead of splitting up. The worst part of all this is losing the kids and half the holidays and everything!!! Karen
Everyone loses in a divorce, but it especially seems so for children.
As adults we are supposed to care for and nurture our children not break their hearts. It would eat me alive to know that I had caused that much pain to my innocent children just because of my own selfish needs.
These WAS are unbelievable. Their consciences seems to go right out the door when their hormones kick in gear all over again for their mid-life "teen" years.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Evil? Perhaps, but kinda funny. When I told him I was going to be gone, I could see the questions (and the teasing, I hate the "Oh lwb's got a boyfriend" teasing that he gives me sometime) about to bubble over. But he didn't ask or say a word, just nodded.