CL--while I admire your efforts to have compassion for her, is it fair to you to coddle her selfishness and fussiness indefinitely?
The things she complains about...I'm sorry, but her demands seem exceedingly immature and impossible: be home more, but make more money...give me more, but don't take anything that's mine...etc. She will never find happiness outside herself. You will never be enough for her if she continues to ignore her own responsibilities as an adult.
She needs a good swift kick. You're doing an amazing job of trying to keep things smooth and peaceful, but smoothing things over seems to be more of a bandaid than a solution.
I'm all for loving solutions (I'm a peace-seeker myself, and can't say I'm perfect here)...they're out there. But CL honey--you deserve MUCH more than she's giving. She may have it in her to give more, but she won't give it if she doesn't realize what's really at stake.
What are some things you can approach DIFFERENTLY?
