Originally Posted By: klm
I am a little torn about new guy right now. For whatever reason, he is getting on my nerves. He really is one of the nicest people I have ever met. However....maybe he is TOO nice)...can someone be too nice? I feel like he agrees with everything I say, and I don't think he would say what he REALLY thinks. He is also very routine and the routine is starting to get to me, and he is VERY predictable. He does have very good qualities too and I feel extremely comfortable around him. IDK, maybe I should cool things off with him a bit.


Kris,

I HOPE there is no such thing as "too nice"! That was my X's primary complaint with me over the last 5 years of our M. Who knows...

But, I think what you are experiencing with NG right now is normal. At least I hope it is normal because it is what I have gone through. \:\) I can tell you that some of it might be residual from your inner torment with feelings for X, I know I can always tie back my "wanting to cool off" times to periods when things were weighing on me. I think it is a natural defense mechanism. Heck, you don't need to jump into anything serious right now anyway! You need to rediscover and enjoy YOURSELF and somehow or another get your heart back into your own possession before you can give it away again. So start making a list of the qualities that NG has that you like, and those that you dislike. Evolve that list as you move along so that you will know what you are looking for, the COMPLETE PACKAGE!

I guess you would put "Not Too Nice" on that list!

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Me: 43 XW: 41 Kids: 4 (3D & 1S)
M: 17 yrs S: 9/07 D: 6/08
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