All he would say and I quote was "I don't need anyone...I'm just trying to find myself and figure out what makes me happy....I am not seeing anyone and I won't be for a very long time".
that's what stbx said to me on September, by October he had a live in gf and her kids will be coming next week to live with them. The lies are totally unbelievable, I hear you, I was lied to like crazy for a year, at the counselor's too. There is a point when lying becomes second nature to them and eventually they can't even tell their lies apart. I'ts pretty pathetic actually.
All this lousy behavior reflects badly on HIM, no reason why you should feel stupid, you were truthful and you were fighting for your M, the looser is him with his lies and new bandaid/ow. Word of advise, from someone who obsessed about the ow, DON"T. Even if the ow was miss Universe, they are just distractions and a new R with no history and no responsibilities, it's a novelty that keeps them mesmerized. Spending energy hating her (honestly, he sought her out most likely) will just fill you with hate and negativity. It's ok to be angry, but dont' let that idiot steal your peace, he's done enough. Work on yourself, DB is not only to save your M, it is to change your mind set, not all Ms are saved, but what we learn during DB stays with us, we become better people through this trial by fire. I wish my M would've been saved, but after all that has happened I have grown as a person and now pity the wretch stbx has become.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
