Kris))))))))))))))) i have been feeling EXACTLY the same these past weeks! all those feelings that have us ache for what we wanted and for what it is have also pull me into a vortex of negativity.
You got such awesome advice, I dont' know what else to add but to say that whatever kind of women they are the xs didn't pick them because they represented the opposite of us, but because the brand spanking Rs are so new and without any history! those women have NO FREAKING idea what kind of men they are with, we do. And because we knew what they were about those man cowardly left because it would've been too much work to rebuild an R.
I too lived with a depressed zombie for months, and now behold! he's buying pets, furniture, planning big things with his 2 month old fiancee. That also happened with then ow, once he moved in with her after we parted ways for good back in Feb 08 he was all plans. Six months later the bubble burst and the crazy chemistry turned into toxic sludge because his true self showed, with all his unresolved issues and lies.

I dont' know hold long this new R will last, and I dont' want to care, I have been misspending SOO much energy thinking of their R, of him, her, where did I go wrong, what could I have said... WASTED time, the man is sick in the head and thought of no one but himself, you and I will never really know what goes on on their Rs, and we need to understand that it's all water under a bridge.
We need more thought stopping, we need to change the channel more often and focus on US.
This new mess has put me back in obsessive thinking a la ow back when he was with me, it's that bad and that toxic and we dont' need it in our lives kris.

WHo knows what the hell were their problems, it's easy to pin it on us, but by the history of their actions no well man would've done what they did.

Hugs)))))))))))) we'll do just fine, no, ever BETTER than before. KNOW IT. BELIEVE IT.


Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.