If you cut back here, then I'll have to pester you on FB, then, right?
I like what Bill had to say, especially the part about your H's having to change to meet the new Kalni and his status quo simply not being enough.
Be sure you lay everything on the table for him w/MC around to moderate. I know you feel you've done it already, and normal people can see it, but H still doesn't get it. Thus, I'd say go through and play Devil's advocate and find where you may not have been completely clear and address those points w/MC in your session.
A neutral 3rd party can go a long way to help H see what it is you need from him - quitting his job, for one - b/c H can't hear what you are saying and he can't understand what you mean.
Remember, he's locked up emotionally from his past, so that is interfering w/his ability to work w/you, his present and his future. Take it from some one who was incredibly locked emotionally himself.
I'm trying to send you as much love and strength as I can right now, my friend.
