If she does not want to go to MC then I have two choices I can either pout and get upset about it. Or I can do what Clint Eastwood says in Heartbreak Ridge and that is “to adapt, to improvise and to overcome.”
you can go to MC alone..
I have been there alone. The C told me after about 5 sessions that I don't need to come back unless I needed someone to talk to or if my W decided to come. She said that I was in a good place and that I have handled my issues very well now it is just learning better communication with my W and her getting over whatever is preventing us from moving our R forward.
She told me that I have been very patient and could not figure out why my W is so against coming to MC or to improve our intamacy without speaking to her. I felt the same and see no need to go there unless things start going south again or I start feeling really frustrated which I have not.
I am doing well. I wish there was more intamacy but at the moment she does not seem ready for any of that and I am ok with it right now. But I do know in the near future that I will be speaking to her about going to MC and moving our R forward.
