Being lied to is one of the hardest betrayals to overcome. For him to sit in front of you and tell you a bold-faced lie is ridiculous! He should have said nothing at all. Why does the WAS feel the need to continue lying to the LBS even after they have left us, told us they don't want us, and we know they are having an A? Don't they realize that all they are doing is further damage us by continuing to lie?
Look at what you said Julia,
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Yet he went off on the pretence of wanting to live the single life and concentrate on his job and it turns out he wants to live with someone and hates his job. WTF??
He has NO CLUE what he wants. He tried one thing, fell into another R because he doesn't know how to do single, and he now hates the job he thought he should focus on because it's not satisfying him either. You see....HIM HIM HIM! He's not going to be satisfied until he finds his own strength and stops relying on outside influences to "complete" him.
You are such a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman Julia. You have everything in the world going for you. Ask yourself if you would accept your H back as he is now. Is he someone you would respect and love now? The love you have for your H is based on the man you knew and that man doesn't exist anymore. What do you want now Julia? Tell me where you see yourself in 1 year. Let's not even go into 5 years...just 1.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
