here comes the sun.,...It will be alright

[oldtimer]

W asked for some space to get her work done through finals. Perhaps once finals are over it would be nice to give you both some time to come together naturally rather than coming out with the heavy stuff the moment she hits the send button for her final paper.

[Dr LOve]

Ot,

Ok then it's.. well after X.mas..then after new years... then after your birthday... then after school is out...does it ever end?
I am not asking for a seperation.. I am asking if that is what she wants...Come on now 2 years???? one should know by now

Doc

[oldtimer]

If she knew, she would tell you. If you push for an answer before she is ready, she will almost certainly choose separation.

If YOU want a separation, then ask for one. If YOU are done trying unless she decides she wants the M, then tell her you are done being more into the R than she is. REPORT what is going on with you. I have no idea what is in your letter, but your tone on the board is, well, let's say whiny and needy. You aren't the victim here. It is your choice to work on the M or not. It is your choice what you put into it. If you aren't happy with the results, change your choices.

Why put all this on W? What W wants is time to figure out what she wants, she told you recently that she doesn't know. She's not going to have figured it out two weeks later while she's been preparing for and taking finals.

[kml]

Wife made son a burrito for dinner and he placed it on his computer desk and then went to get something he got today to show me.. And when he got back..... Yep...It was gone and Nellie was the only "person" in the room....

LOL! So let me guess - Nellie is a Lab????

Ellie

[whatdidido]

Listen to Oldtimer. When I reread your whole situation, she (or he) was almost always saying what I was thinking. Once again, she said it best.

[Dr LOve]

Mom is home.

I apreciate the WAS that post here. And the input I get from them.
SO don't get me wrong when I post this but.....

It seems "Give me time" is a common theme.

to me most of the time when people want more time they are avoiding ...

good or bad get it over with


I got ta stop now before I get myself into trouble..

[whatdidido]

Won't get in trouble from me. Just trying to help. I give you advice based on what I think will help your marriage. That's it.

[Dr LOve]

Won't get in trouble from me. Just trying to help. I give you advice based on what I think will help your marriage. That's it.

Thanks WDID,

I understand..and I thank you and OT


Wife may have fixed her Computer. Made a point to tell me she should be through with her finals soon..

[Dr LOve]

Saffie,

you ok?

[oldtimer]

Uh, I haven't been a WAS...

As for most WASs, they mostly WALK and don't take the time to reflect, try, and then figure out what they want. So, I guess that means your W is not a WAS.

Your impatience is due to the fact that W is not on your timetable. That is her choice. YOUR choice is to be responsible for your own timetable. Decide what you will/won't accept in terms of timetables and then REPORT that. Pushing W to make YOUR choices for you is not going to help you or your R.

Are you in IC?