I'm so sorry to hear your story. None of this is easy. My situation is different, so I can't speak from experience. I don't want to sound negative, and please forgive me if this isn't what you want to hear, but I can't help but wonder why you would even want a relationship w/H after what he's done? I don't know, I love my W with all my heart and I think I can forgive anything she does, but I don't know if I could take her back after moving in with an OM. Only God knows how this will end for you, but even he would say it's ok to move on beyond this. Are you sure you still love your H, or might you be confusing dependance and low self-esteem for love? I know I've done that...
