This has been going on for 6 months. 1st 3 months were bad, then 2 months were good, then she moved out in October. Last night she said she was going to move back into the house for financial reasons, but that she wasn't happy about that. That of course made me feel like crap. She says that I'm too controlling, but that complaint didn't really start coming out until the OM entered the pic. She also used to say that she didn't think I was in love w/her. That I was too good looking for her (she thinks she's overweight), that I lost interest in her. There was a period of time when I was very, very depressed about moving to NYC, and I know that affected our relationship badly. So when this all started 6 months ago I had a wake up call and started addressing the issues she was complaining about, but now she says it's too late. This morning she said to me that she didn't understand why I have to "look like a model just to go to work." I've always taken care of my appearance, but I guess I've been more attention to my looks lately since all of this happened. The truth is I want her to notice me again. I didn't really respond to her comment, but it makes me wonder if she's feeling a bit jealous. We got married 2 years out of HS, but neither of us ever lived on our own, and now she says she's really enjoying having her own space and leading her own life. Those are the main issues: control, ILYBINILWY, and her wanting to be single. I don't know what to do about her moving back in. I definitely want her at home, but I hate that she doesn't even want to be there.
